November 2024
I was speaking with a female colleague a year ago about my desire to expatriate to another country. She made a statement that caught me by surprise. She said, “If you find a woman there who you want to marry, make sure you come back and get married here in the United States.” I responded, “Why on earth would I want to get married here in the US?” She replied, “For your protection. So you can get a prenup.”
Now this wasn’t my first rodeo. I’d been married and divorced, with the woman taking almost everything I had, including my child. I saw judges regularly throw out prenups if the woman claimed she signed it under duress, or was not well informed about what it contained. Prenups are only as good as the (mostly feminist) judges who preside over divorces. I had a better idea. Why not leave the US government out of it entirely? Of course, I kept that idea to myself. No sense in arguing a position about which you already know the other person feels 180 degrees opposite. But how, given the same facts, could we draw such opposite conclusions?
I believe the answer lies not in the facts, but how those facts affect a person based on their gender. In general, the legal system in the United States protects and benefits women, at the expense of men. It has probably given preferential treatment to my colleague. She has certainly seen it give preferential treatment to other women. For her, it is a good deal, so she trusts it. I, on the other hand, have had the opposite experience.
The legal system has taken away most of what I worked for and given it to a woman just because she wanted it. The same legal system took away my child for me. The same legal system had me arrested when falsely accused by a woman, with zero corroborating evidence or witnesses. I have seen judges collude with prosecutors to fabricate evidence against men and suppress evidence in their favor. I have seen judges legislate from the bench to take away whatever they want from men, and give it to women, despite what the law clearly states, or what legal protective measures were taken beforehand.
No. There is no way in hell I would ever get married again the USA, or any Western country for that matter.