Is Your Filipina a Scammer?

December 2024

Introduction

One of the main things men bring to a relationship that women want is resources. This is usually in the form of money. Women are not gold diggers or materialistic for wanting this. It is hard wired. Just as men want youth and beauty in a woman. That is not predatory or shallow. It is hard wired. Wishing it were different or shaming men and women won’t change a thing. It is reality. Where things go awry is when either women or men take this to extremes. This article concentrates on women who do this, prioritizing money above all else without any other care for the man. More specifically it concentrates on Filipinas who scam men online. Scamming in person is an entirely different dynamic, although some of these dynamics apply there as well.

Disclaimer

Very few Filipinas are like this. They are not scammers. They have traditional values. They want a loyal husband and family. They are some of the best wives and girlfriend in the world. However, the best way to find one of them is in person. Travelling to the Philippines and putting boots on the ground, especially outside the cities in the provincial areas. Travelling there is not possible for many Western men. At least not at first. Some men have no choice but to try to forge relationships online. This is fraught with risk, but doable if you are careful and keep your head. Hopefully, this article will help you do that.

The Tactics

The tactics most of these women use online are simple and easy to spot, if you don’t let your heart or your testosterone cloud your judgment. They don’t have a huge bag of tricks from which to pull tactics, nor are the tactics particularly advanced or psychologically sophisticated. You might see variations on these, but the foundation will usually be the same.

The Short Game

She will be excited to meet you and chat with you. But there’s only one problem, she doesn’t have a data load for her phone. She will ask you to send one, or send her some money for one. It’s not much. Around $5. This isn’t an attempt to extract money from you, rather it is a test to see how agreeable you are to send her money. If you pass her test, she will begin working on you to slowly extract more. Saying no is actually a very easy screening method for you to discard at least 50% of the scammers quickly.

The Long Game

She will not ask for money directly, just give subtle hints that she has financial problems. It is often school, food or healthcare for herself or a loved one. Sometime she will become quiet and withdrawn, then tell you of the problem when you ask what’s wrong. She will follow up with, “Don’t worry about it. I will be fine.” If you offer money, she will decline it. She will probably decline several offers. This is to gain your trust that she is not trying to take financial advantage of you. However, eventually she will “give in,” take your money, and then you are hooked. Even more so because you now trust that she is not a scammer.

Sending Nudes

At some point in time, the “girlfriend” may offer to send nude pictures of herself. This is not guaranteed, but some women do it in an attempt to consolidate their hold on the man. Many will pretend that they don’t do that sort of thing, but that the man is special. She may even suggest that they are engaged now. She will say this is the first time she has ever done that. Rest assured it is not. This is not a trade of nudes for money. It is an attempt to establish false closeness that the woman can use to make the man feel that she is his, and through that gain his trust for a lot more money.

Spinning Plates

Many of these female scammers scale their operations by doing them online. They can chat several different men, pretending to be girlfriend, even fiancée, to all. Devote a little time daily to each one and  get multiple payouts. Most of these scammers already have a local boyfriend, or even husband.

Some Common Signs

The scammer tactics leave telltale signs. Here are some of the more common ones.

Even Numbers

One sign that you are probably being lied to is a request for even-numbered sum of money to take care of a financial need such as medical, tuition, or other bills. When have you ever seen a medical bill, electric bill, or school tuition perfectly rounded off to 500.00, 1000.00 or 10,000.00? It’s very rare. Sure, it’s possible, but a woman with real integrity wouldn’t be asking anyway.

She Never Answers Video Calls

She will make all kinds of excuses for this. No data load, bad connection, or being embarrassed about her poor English. I’ve heard them all. If she is really interested in you, she will take video calls. The most likely reason she will not accept is because 1) her boyfriend or husband is there, 2) her kid(s) are there, 3) she’s chatting up other Western men who think she’s their girlfriend, 4) she is working in a girly bar, or 5) all of the above.

Creeping Expenses

She starts off small. A phone data load here, $20 there. Before you know it, it becomes several hundreds of dollars per week. Given to a woman you’ve never even met. You best bet is to send nothing to any woman you have never met in person.

Good Defenses

If you follow these guidelines, you should be covered for most of what you will encounter. Some are just common sense, others are more proactive. None are sophisticated or difficult.

Send No Money

As stated earlier, send no money ever to any woman you have never met. This is a very easy concept that can be hard to do. It takes discipline and self-control. If she really cares about you, she will stick around without money. Think of it as a litmus test to weed out scammers and gold diggers. Scammers will not waste their time chatting up a guy that doesn’t send at least a little money. However, some will circle back every few months to see if they can snag you.

Watch for the Pity Play

Watch out for stories designed to pull at your heart strings or male nature to save a poor, helpless young woman. Sick relative, cannot afford school, no food, and anything else that might make you want to rescue her. Western men fall for this in droves and she knows it. Watch for it. Anticipate it. Then disregard it. You can always empathize and say how terrible it is, but send nothing. Practice it. It helps you do it better.

Cut Off Aggression

Some of these women will declare you to be their boyfriend (or even fiancée) almost immediately, already talking about “monsaries” (monthly anniversaries) and gifts. That’s pushing too hard, too fast. Others might resort to guilting in an attempt to manipulate you. Really smooth ones will try to point out some contrived hypocrisy or lack of honor in a subtle fashion to get you to open your wallet. Something like, I though you said you were Christian. Don’t Christians help people in need? That is manipulation. Aggressive manipulation. Immediately cut off a woman who does that. You will always have to watch your back around her. You do not want a relationship with a woman like that, or even a casual friendship.

Don’t Accept Nudes

Yes, you heard me correctly. I know this goes against everything in your male brain, but don’t accept them. It just opens the door for her to more effectively manipulate you. If you cannot help yourself, then have a look, delete them, and tell her you won’t accept them. Hang onto them at your own risk. You will want more and then do what it takes to get them. What it takes will involve sending money to her.

Avoid Dating Sites

Dating sites might have been good at one time, but they aren’t anymore. Yes, you will find successful relationships between Western men and Filipinas that started there, but the odds are against you. Because they are online, they are perfectly tailored to online scamming by women. High return from low effort. The scamming won’t be through hacking, so they won’t violate any laws or rules there. It will be through social engineering. If the man is obtuse enough to fall for it, then it is on him. There are men who swear by these dating sites, but I wouldn’t do it unless you are very well versed in the scammer tactics and defenses, plus have an ironclad will to stick to them. You would be better served to reach out through messenger on social media when you see a woman in whom you are interested.

Social Media Deep Dive

If you think you’re serious about her, then check her social media. Then check the social media of all her friends and family. Then check the social media of all their friends and families. Look for pictures of her with other guys. Do all this with a second account she doesn’t know about. Check her friends and friend’s friends for connections to any other accounts she might have on which your main account is blocked. Women will almost always tell on themselves. They cannot help it. They have to show everyone the fancy resort they visited, the great party they attended, the hot guy they met, and more. It’s almost always out there. You just have to do the detective work to find it. Most scammers won’t hide it too deeply. So what if they lose you. They still have a half-dozen other Western men sending them money and it’s easy to replace you.

Guard Your Own Social Media

Don’t put any personal data out there that she can use to try to manipulate you. Or even worse, blackmail you. That is rare, but can happen. Your best bet is to use a second account with a nickname. Don’t list where you live or work. Don’t have friends on it. That down side of this is that you will now look like a scammer. You’ll have to overcome that for some of these women to talk to you. The upside of that is that you will screen out some more female scammers. You cannot have it all. There is no perfect technique.

Conclusion

None of this is rocket science. It is all pretty basic stuff, as long as you don’t lose your head about the beautiful, young woman on the other end professing to be madly attracted to and in love with you. Not all Filipinas are like this. In fact, I would wager the majority are not. However, this small minority is notorious and gets a lot of attention. What’s worse, is that most of them are on the front line and will be some of the first Filipinas a foreign man meets. In order to find the wonderful, traditional Filipinas who are some of the best girlfriends and wives in the world, you have to wade through those first layers. You might get burned a time or two, so never bet more than you can afford to lose. Good luck and be careful out there.

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