I Love My Country …

… but my country does not love me.

It has been a rough week. I’ve been through far worse in my life, so this is just a blip. However, each set of difficulties provides its own unique hell, different from what came before or will come after. It still takes a toll, and sometimes that toll initiates a tipping point. This is mine. As I sat in the morning silence, drinking my coffee, I realized that I don’t want to live here anymore. I don’t want to live in a nation where the culture, media, government and corporations condemn and vilify me just for being white and male. Where an employer can force me to attend meetings in which I am required to listen to how I am a racist and misogynist without ever having done anything remotely like that … and then be encouraged to confess sins I never committed. Where I am declared guilty of racism and misogyny just because of my physical traits, rather than anything in my character or actions. That I am guilty of generational oppression when my ancestors were not even in this country until a year before I was born. Where my achievements are summarily dismissed because I had “privilege” in attaining them. My country does not love me.

I worked hard for forty years, but I am told that everything I have and achieved is because I stole it from others, all the while giving up to 50% of my income to those others who sit on their butts and don’t work. If I take issue with this and stop paying, armed men will show up to take everything I have and imprison me. I am told that I am privileged, while I see others continually receive preferential treatment because they possess the traits I do not have. They occupy jobs and positions for which they are not qualified, often causing me and others to fix their shoddy work. They are promoted ahead of me to meet quotas. They receive money for just possessing a certain trait. They are given academic degrees without putting in the work. They are given unlimited do-overs, where I get just one chance, if that. They can take a man’s money at whim, using a legal system weaponized against men. They are some of the most privileged people in all of history, while they scream and point their fingers at me being the oppressor. If I open my mouth, I risk losing my job and being vilified in public at best, imprisonment at worst. This dynamic permeates every single American institution. My country does not love me.

We need to kill all men. Kill male babies. Kill any man that you see, like in the street.

Feminist Jenny McDermott

Consider this recent statement on social media by U.S. feminist Jenny McDermott. “We need to kill all men. Kill male babies. Kill any man that you see, like in the street.” Was she arrested for hate speech or incitement to commit murder and infanticide? No. Was she warned, banned or doxed? No. Not even demonetized. Instead, she was cheered on and the comments went viral. Clearly, over half the U.S. population either agrees with her or sees nothing wrong with what she said. Even many of the men seem to agree, that is the simping soyboy excuses for men in the West. Imagine if a man had made these comments about women? He would be arrested and imprisoned, if the crowds did not tear him to pieces first. So why is a woman heralded for it? As a man, just mentioning there is something you don’t like about feminism is enough to have you declared an extremist and placed on a watchlist.

I fought for my nation, in combat, effectively earning less than minimum wage for the actual hours I worked in abject filth, sleep deprivation, and physical hardship. Never mind the added perk of risking my life in the process. In exchange for that, I was called a killer and murderer.  A judge declared me incapable of being a parent because I was also a soldier … and took my child away from me. Never mind all the strong and independent single mothers in the military. In fact, I was threatened by the judge with jail time just for mentioned this. Jail time, for pointing out hypocrisy and wanting to be a father present in his child’s life. Yes, our nation speaks lofty words about veterans, thanking them for their service … then then takes away their children and destroys them financially when they come home … all because a woman is “not happy.”

Over 6,000 male veterans have committed suicide every year since 2005. That’s over 16 a day for a total of over 100,000 veterans. That’s about 10 infantry divisions, the exact number of all the divisions the US Army currently has active. We have kicked to the curb and deleted the equivalent of our entire active-duty combat force, without giving it even the slightest consideration. Sixteen deaths a day. There are about that many deaths per year in school shootings, yet they receive exponentially more coverage for less than 1/3 of 1% of deaths. It’s not just deaths. Hundreds of thousands more veterans are homeless, most of them because the government took everything away from them … because a woman was “not happy.” Some were imprisoned when they had no more to give, for felony child support evasion. That “crime” charge is only leveled against men … predominantly white men. Who are the real oppressed here? Our country does not love us.

I will obey the laws of my nation and I would never even consider any type of treason … but I will not remain here. Unlike the leaders of our nation and an increasing number of its citizens, I have character and values. I stand by the oath and allegiance I made so long ago and will not violate it, even after my country has repeatedly violated me and millions of other loyal citizens. However, character and values count for nothing here, just the traits with which you were born … and I have all the wrong ones. Because they are the wrong ones, I am automatically declared an oppressor when ironically, I have become the oppressed. Fine, I will go somewhere that thinks more highly of me. My country does not love me.

I am not the only one. Thousands, perhaps millions, of men are doing this. Leaving a country that doesn’t love them, or just checking out and doing the bare minimum to survive. You’re feeling the effects already. Two month wait just to get your car’s oil changed. Need a plumber? Good luck. Soon there will be fewer and fewer things on store shelves, because you collectively crapped all over the men you deemed oppressors. Ironically, they are the ones who build and maintain the infrastructure upon which rests all your luxuries and your ability to pursue noble-sounding professions that produce little or nothing of real value. They sweat while you sit in air conditioned comfort. You spit on the very men who sustain you. Our country does not love us.

When another man asks me, “Why do you want to leave?” My only response is, “Why do you want to stay?”

Some of you may call this whining. A sign of my own “privilege.” I don’t give a rat’s butt. It doesn’t detract from the truth and accuracy of what I am saying. You are probably on the receiving end of the real privilege in this country. Keep enjoying it. You are part of the reason I am leaving. I love my country, but those who lead it and many of you living in it can go pound sand. Goodbye.

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Judging, elevating or favorably treating others by physical characteristics, or traits. Replaces racism due to the fact that there is only one race, human.

The overriding view that women are strong and independent, don’t need men, and are more competent and wiser than men. Men are to realize and admit that they are both inferior and toxic.

Giving too much attention and affection, whether through gifts, compliments, or acts of service as a way of seeking validation from someone else.

Instead of accepting responsibility and facing the uncomfortable situation head-on, the deflectors will try to move the focus from themselves, usually by passing the blame onto someone or something else.

Individuals are confronted with two choices, both of which have negative results. The choices are framed to produce an emotional response in the person, forcing them to choose or look bad. The individual will fail, no matter what choice they make. The abuser will use this as leverage to further manipulate the victim by depicting them as weak, flawed or ineffective.

The manipulative process by which individual or collective freedom of choice and action is compromised by agents or agencies that modify or distort perception, motivation, affect, cognition and/or behavioral outcomes. The person being mind controlled is not aware of the influence process, nor of the changes occurring within themselves. They believe they are acting according to their own choices.

A declaration of an intention or determination to inflict punishment, injury, etc. to frighten and emotionally force a person to do something.

The intentional manipulation of another person’s emotions to induce feelings of guilt. It is a form of emotional blackmail that is often designed to manipulate other people by preying on their emotions and making them feel responsible for something they are not.

Using sarcasm and put-downs to increase fear and self-doubt in the victim. Manipulators use this tactic to make others feel unworthy and therefore defer to them. Manipulators can make one feel ashamed for even daring to challenge them or say no.

Attempting to establish a perceived close bond with someone very quickly to overcome their natural caution and use them for money, resources or work. This is often involves a quick push for friendship or intimacy.

A manipulative tactic where someone portrays themselves as a victim to gain sympathy, attention, or caregiving. The goal is to make the person eliciting pity seem like a victim, which can make it easier to get what they want without being seen as a bad guy. This is because people are naturally inclined to help those they pity.

A woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she chooses which state benefits her the most.

A woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she chooses which state benefits her the most.

A Chad is a stereotypical alpha male. He is depicted as attractive, successful, muscular, cocky and very popular among women. He has a tendency to play the field and will not commit to any woman.

An enabler of a highly narcissistic person or someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A flying monkey is an agent who acts on their behalf.

Projection involves taking an unacceptable part of oneself, disowning it, and placing it onto someone else. The manipulator describes the victim and paints them in a light that more accurately portrays the attacker himself.

Toxic amnesia is a tactic where the perpetrator pretends to not remember abuse, betrayals, lies, and other hurtful and dysfunctional behaviors they've engaged in. Its a form of gaslighting. Its purpose is to make you doubt your perceptions and memories.

Narcissistic rage can be triggered by various situations, such as criticism, perceived rejection, or being ignored. The reaction is often extreme and disproportionate to the event or comment, as the narcissist's fragile ego struggles to cope with the perceived attack on their self-image.

Triangulation is when a toxic or manipulative person, often a person with strong narcissistic traits, brings a third person into their relationship in order to remain in control. There will be limited or no communication between the two triangulated individuals except through the manipulator. It may appear in different forms, but all are about divide and conquer, or playing people against each other.

The action or practice of lavishing someone with attention or affection, especially in order to influence or manipulate them.

Cognitive dissonance refers to a situation involving conflicting attitudes, beliefs, or behaviors. This produces a feeling of mental discomfort leading to an alteration in one of the attitudes, beliefs, or behaviors to reduce the discomfort and restore balance.

To gaslight someone means to manipulate another person into doubting their own perceptions, experiences or understanding of events. ~ American Psychological Association

Because their sense of self is determined by what others think of them, narcissists use relationships for self-enhancement. Everyone must feed them. In addition, they seek validation and attention in their public and professional life. Other people are used as objects in order to provide their supply. For example, they may need constant compliments or applause, more status and money, or may check their appearance in the mirror several times a day. ~ Psychology Today

Fraud that targets people belonging to a particular community or group, typically that in which someone pretends to be a member of the group in order to gain the trust of others.

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Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

A religious leader uses valid verses or concepts from the Bible about following and obeying God to generate enthusiasm in people, then misdirects that obedience to himself as a representative of God. The group believes they are following and obeying God, but in reality are obeying the leader.

A fictional, exaggerated version of an opposing viewpoint, especially one that is intentionally created to be easy to dismiss or argue against and to make one's own argument seem stronger. Straw man arguments can be made unintentionally, but most are made on purpose to make the other side seem evil, incompetent, or extremist.

The religious leader distracts members from mentally registering what he is doing.  Screaming praise to God when something he proclaimed does not come to pass.  Acting like a bad thing is really a good thing.  Just keep talking and talking and talking, while ignoring that nothing is happening. It is the same thing politicians have done successfully for years.

The leader calls members flattering adjectives or nouns, like righteous, holy, or saint.  These are often vague and difficult to define, so the member feels the leader’s superior knowledge has recognized something good in them.  Conversely, if the leader later withdraws this praise, the member is eager to toe the line to recover it.

Manipulation of a person or group's emotions in order to make them believe something is factual (or false) in the absence of any evidence. The manipulator tries to draw on the recipient's inward feelings such as fear, pity, or joy with the goal of convincing them that the statements being presented are true or false.

Essentially a black-and-white worldview with the leader as the ultimate moral arbiter. This creates an atmosphere of guilt and shame, where punishment and humiliation are expected. It also sets up an environment wherein members spy and report on one another. Through submission to the guilt-inducing and impossible demand for purity, members lose their moral bearing.

The use of jargon internal to (and only understandable by) the group. Constricting language constricts the person. Capacities for thinking and feeling are significantly reduced. Imagination is no longer a part of life experiences, and the mind atrophies from disuse.

The process whereby the group becomes the ultimate arbiter and all nonbelievers become so-called evil or non-people. If these non-people cannot be recruited, then they can be punished or even killed. This process creates an us-versus-them mentality that breeds fear in followers who learn that life depends on a willingness to obey. This is when individuals merge with the group’s belief.